Uh… It’s a Ten Year Anniversary Post

Stitch’s Media Mix is ten years old!

Gross! I hate it!

I’d waffled about posting anything for this since I’ve basically stopped updating the site across the past few years. But actually… my site is still here, and I guess that counts for something.

I originally put this site together because I wanted to write for Book Riot and, at the time, they wanted more presence than social media for their authors. I feel like, somewhere in the depths of my inbox, is a very polite rejection that explicitly says they wanted writers with a website and that Tumblr didn’t count. Hilariously, even after all of that effort, I never wound up writing for them. I kind of… forgot that I had ever wanted to write for them in the process of building my own site and trying to figure out exactly what I wanted to say.

In the past decade, I have said a lot. I have done a lot. I may not have written for Book Riot, but I’ve written for a lot of different publications until burning out and (basically) staying that way after my dad died in late 2022. I’ve been in fandom studies publications, on podcasts that I was not running, and have spoken to several of my favorite celebrities. (And maybe a few of yours!) In the past decade, I built decent relationships with so many brilliant people and learned as much as I tried to teach.

Did you know that there were people who were in middle or high school when they started reading my posts on Tumblr and who now are in college or working in publishing or communications where they try to make a difference? I feel so old when someone messages me and is like “I used to read your site when I was in high school” and now they’re like in their late 20s.

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Fandom Math

A tag wrangling decision that coddles racists in fandom and emboldens racists to be condescending and antiblack in response to Black fans speaking about it is a racist tag wrangling decision. An archive practice that protects racists’ feelings is a racist archive practice.

Full stop.

This is a decision that was made in order to coddle racists still mad about Sam Wilson being the new Captain America. This was a decision, made just over two weeks from Brave New World‘s release, to prioritize the One True Captain America, center whiteness in fandom, and remind Black fans that we don’t get to have anything at all in fandom.

These films are not different franchises and it’s not a new continuity. There is no need to separate them at the franchise level in the tags. And had Bucky become Captain America instead of Sam, they would not have made this decision. It’s a decision made to insulate them from the reminder that this change has happened and that Captain America is now (and has been for a couple of years) a Black man.

And everyone in the comments and tags condescending to or mocking Black fans as if the ones talking about how bad a look this is are too unintelligent to understand how archives work or what racism looks like? The ones alternating between calling Black fans armchair activists and saying that we should tackle the “real racism” on the archive first – something I’m certain they’d get in the way of discussing too because these people literally will not let Black fans speak on what we see?

Those antiblack assholes can go straight to hell too alongside every single person responsible for that tag wrangling decision.

Hannibal Fandom’s Hate-On For Jack Crawford Should’ve Gone Limp By Now

Jack Crawford will never be my favorite character on NBC’s Hannibal.

That dubious honor goes to the titular character because I’ve been unhinged and unwell about Hannibal since reading Hannibal Rising day of release in the library.

But while I’m not a Jack fan, I’m not a Jack hater. I thought his character – played by Laurence Fishburne – was perfectly serviceable and fit established genre tropes really well. He’s Will Graham’s “boss” and pushes Will to dig deeper and deeper into cases that damage him in order to solve horrifying cases. So, not a great boss… and yet he’s far from the worst person in a series full of sadistic and manipulative serial killers.

Well, that’s what you’d think if you weren’t a die-hard Will Graham kinnie (someone who hyper-identifies with/as a fictional character) or a Hannibal/Will (Hannigram) shipper.

If you were – or are – either of those things, you probably would believe that Jack Crawford is the worst character on the show.

Not the worst written, but the most monstrous.

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Black Fans Get Run Out of Fandom All The Time

Near the 21st, tumblr user ororomunroedontpullout (re)posted about how annoying it was to see (primarily white) fans use “ACAB” to talk about people they consider “fancops” – which can and often does explicitly include people of color talking about racism in fandom. (This is something I also find particularly infuriating, as you know.)

One of the fandom-brained responses they got? Phoenix-kin-home sending them the following message:

Genuinely, if you can’t understand how being driven out of online spaces where one finds community and friends, especially if they struggle to irl, can be harmful to people, then I don’t know how to convince you. I hope you have a nice week, and realize why you’re wrong.

Ororomunroedontpullout handled it well. She pointed out both that what that user describes isn’t police brutality and, once the user came back to moan about “the actual issue”, that the real issue that they’re talking about is that people harassing you on the internet is not the same as police brutality.

Anyway, that user’s comment made me think about something. They mention that “being driven out of online spaces where one finds community and friends […] can be harmful to people”.

But Black people are consistently alienated in and forced out of fandom, and no one gives a shit.

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Do You Think If I Beat This Horse Enough It’ll Actually Die?

This piece on racist spite fic – sparked by someone writing thousands of words of such to get back at “antis” in the MDZS fandom after a BNF requested and then received racist threadfic – is getting clicks again and I know why.

It’s because, as is the case when racists in fandom do something racist… they never get the same consequences or pushback as people like me calling out racism or just speaking about it mildly. So people are finding out that the two people involved did this racist thing and then a third person did a more racist thing. Two years later. Because BNFs can do no wrong. Obviously.

But this isn’t the point of the audiopost, not fully.

Although, I will say it’s wild to see people who actively participate (present tense) in harassing, mocking, and punishing me for talking about racism in any fandom speak out against “hunting” people across the internet and out of fandom after they continue to do just that to me,

The point of this audio post is the horse I’m beating.

It’s the “you guys need to leave me out of your shit” of it all.

Especially because it’s not like you’re sharing my work with people who will read it in good faith or like you’re defending me at the risk of your own reputation and relationships. The vast majority of people who share my work do so knowing the people they’re linking it to will say awful shit about me. The majority of the people who invoke my name as some fandom spectre of anti racism do so knowing that they’re speaking to people who have a messed up mythology of me in their minds.

And honestly?

You all know the company you keep.

Keep me out of it!

[Untitled Scott Blogging]

Fandom really is a place where media literacy, critical thinking. and empathy go to die… especially when characters or people of color that fandom doesn’t like are concerned

Because tell me why this moomoo (the OP of the post) is calling Scott McCall “an antagonist (who’s actually a protagonist bc of the unreliable narrator and the moral greyness of the plot)”.

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Apologies (Not) Forthcoming

A little guilty pleasure I must admit to… I love seeing other people’s apologies. 

Especially when they’re celebrities. You may have guessed this because I have a whole article about celebrity apologies for antiblackness and other racisms and how fans should respond especially when they aren’t of the offended/harmed party. 

One of the things that I find fascinating, but unsurprising when it comes to apologies? How few apologies I’ve gotten over the years.

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Who Gets To Be Mean For Real: Revisiting The Cult(ure) of Nice

I am also blocked on one of Stitch’s accounts on my own public account, probably (though I don’t know for sure) because I called their friend […] a cunt to her face last November

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[Stitch’s] behavior is undeniably rude. I think you could also call it mean.

Imp’s whatever we owe each other

Go read Imp’s entire post (and Dom’s reblog pointing out that Imp regurgitated a debunked lie about me from someone who lied about their age and us ever interacting) and then come back here. But while you read, think about how the quotes above and the full post show a startling example of the double standards that I have to live with underneath the trembling white arm of the cult(ure) of nice in fandom.

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Talking To Talk – Malicious Interpretations

I put my podcast on hiatus mode with my host because a) money and b) I live underneath what sounds like every single Titan in Attack on Titan and so recording is frequently interrupted by those heavy-stepping heffalumps. But I wanted to still have a medium to convey sincere feelings through audio and when I didn’t feel like coloring on-camera and so… Talking to talk. Everything and nothing.

Unfortunately, no transcript at the time because I’m pinching pennies and currently can’t afford to pay for one when I’m all budgeted out for the Fic Friday transcripts. But in this I cover:

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Life As A Symbol

I’ll talk more about this in detail – as in a proper essay, not an off the cuff blog post – one day, but it is weird being a public figure of any kind and a symbol before you’re a person. 

For starters, everything I say has weight… but it’s not usually the weight I attribute to it or intend? If I say I like something, there are people who assume it must be an incredible and insightful piece of media that gives amazing moral messages. (It’s not. It’s usually a villainess webtoon with at least one siscon and at least two yanderes)

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You’d buy anything, huh…

Fundamentally, at the most basic level, if your response to that Telegram screenshot of “Anonymous Sudan” claiming credit for DDOS’ing AO3 because of “smuts” and “LGBTQ+ content” was to immediately express anti-Muslim spree and malign an entire country just so you could pretend to be even more oppressed than you usually think you are… You’re a bad person. 

Objectively.

Definitively. 

(And in before “well I didn’t see that happen so it didn’t”….

I’m not even on twitter anymore and I saw it. I saw it in TikToks. Not (just) TikToks comprised of tweets but people making quippy racist videos they then quickly backpedaled on. The AO3 Status twitter had to call it out so you know they saw it.

You’re just wilfully ignorant and determined to pretend fandom isn’t a racist shithole where racism is okay as long as it’s sexy and/or in defense of the fandom status quo. You are also a bad person, person who rushes to dismiss other people talking about racism!)

Who Holds The Assholes Accountable, I Wonder

Several weeks later, it remains horrifying that Dreamwidth co-creator Denise/@rahaeli (bluesky and Twitter)/synecdochic on Dreamwidth chose to unmask as an unhinged racist anti of… me.

To this day she continues to slander me based on the words of five to fifteen POC Too that she can’t provide any links to in public, even moving it to BlueSky and other platforms where even less people will see me dealing with this harassment and defend me.

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At Critique

I don’t think I am or should be above critique. I’m at critique, craving those rare moments where someone will sit down and send a long meaty email for me to chew on as I rewrite… And knowing how how rare it is.

I’m not getting critique so much as harassment people then claim is critique as if there’s anything I can learn from unintelligent racists spending years lying about me…

Take the reaction to the woobification article. People called me racist, said I hated abuse survivors, said I had internalized homophobia and didn’t understand queer coded villains. Those aren’t criticisms and they’re not true in the slightest. They also hold no basis in what I actually wrote. Few critical (negative) engagements with my work actually address my work?

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