Category: A Catch All

For The Second Time in Six Months, We’ve Got Messed Up F/F Discourse

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I don’t know how to tell the most absurd fandom brained fools that lesbians – especially trans lesbians – talking about how they feel alienated in fandoms dominated by cis male M/M content or are upset about the way media about lesbians and other queer women get treated by the professionals running studios… are not inherently terfy. 

It’s the second time since February that I’m watching people in fandom – who aren’t  trans femmes themselves for the most part – call trans lesbians TERFs or accuse them of having/utilizing “TERF rhetoric” for pointing out discrepancies in content volume or criticizing cis women or trans masc co-opting of “TERF” and “TERF rhetoric” to divorce them from trans women/misogyny in particular and claim that any slight criticism of fandom (of misogyny, of a lack of F/F, of racism) is in and of itself TERFy. 

And it’s the same people doing this. 

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Not much of anything likely to get posted this week…

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Because I’m stuck in a hotel for the foreseeable future because my apartment is a toxic hazard that has me super sick for several months… the hotel internet is terrible… oh and a (major??) hurricane is hitting/passing over my intersection of floribamageorgia this week.

If I survive all of that… semi-regular posting will resume next week.

Late August Updates

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I was one of the guests on Fansplaining’s 8th Anniversary Podcast Episode!

Here’s a quote from my segment:

One of the things that I’ve noticed that has both affected me as an individual and fandom at large is that fans are actively entering the fight against racism in fandom on the side of racism. They’re actively choosing to defend racists, defend racist tropes, to support people who are doing racist behaviors, and it is out of this sense that they need to protect their space and their energy. 

You can listen to the full thing HERE

I’m running a GoFundMe to try and help my sister and the niecelings get a little more financial stability as the apartment they’re in now is tiny and rundown. I just updated the GFM to let people know that while we’re off to a great start, we’re on a tighter deadline because the apartment complex’s new leasing company is raising the rent to almost $2000 a month so we don’t even have the cushion of the rent amount they were used to.

If you can share, donate, cajole any random celebs you know to donate… please do so?

Because I’d do it in a heartbeat, but my own apartment is currently trying to kill me so like… I’m not able to help my family the way I wish I could.

You can find the GFM HERE.

I’ve got a monthly newsletter that’s pay-to-read! It’s for NSFW/R18 content I’m reading, writing, or watching and while I will be posting the wildly out of pocket content I’ve been reading – I’m serious about how important FAKKU has become to me – there will always be clear warnings!

I’m working on the second installment to go live on the first of September but you can read the first one here!

And I’m actively looking for a career change! If you know anyone hiring for something I can do but that’s not pop culture or fandom journalism, please hit me up. I really want a career change and to not be beholden to the internet’s trends. If I’m gonna get shouted at all the time, I want it to be for stuff that people agree matters and for an actual living wage.

Thanks!

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Remember You

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Right around the time that my dad got sick (like when he moved in with us and we realized how sick he was), I’d restarted one of my regular rewatches of Adventure Time.

One of the things that will never leave me is the way that the episode with the song “remember you” (I think it’s also called that) captured what it felt like to lose your dad when he’s right in front of you.

As I watched this episode, even playing the song for him at one point, I realized that my dad was Simon and I was Marceline. He lost himself despite his best efforts and there was nothing I could do to help him remember himself. All I could do was remember him.

I really love this song and I always will, but I ugly cry every time at Marceline’s helplessness and the realization that Ice King will never be the Simon she loved again and that there’s nothing she can do to change it because the thing that has changed him so very terribly… Is the only thing keeping him in her life even in this diminished state.

I probably shouldn’t be re-watching the songs when I’m in an emotionally fragile state (aka always), but watching some of Adventure Time with my dad is some of the last memories I have of him before he ended up in the hospital and then in the care facility he was at before he died. Remembering him is all I can do.

And it’s really weird to miss someone who was a little bit distant from me because of how he was raised, but so much is happening and I keep thinking about how he’s the parent I could have told us all too he would have listened, and he would have supported me.

And I don’t have that anymore and I never will again.

[Untitled Scott Blogging]

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https://www.tumblr.com/princeescaluswords/725453688334860288/let-me-see-what-i-can-do-for-you-first-develop

Fandom really is a place where media literacy, critical thinking. and empathy go to die… especially when characters or people of color that fandom doesn’t like are concerned

Because tell me why this moomoo (the OP of the post) is calling Scott McCall “an antagonist (who’s actually a protagonist bc of the unreliable narrator and the moral greyness of the plot)”.

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Of all the Lovecraft reply guys on social media…

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I have to say that the most annoying one I’ve dealt with is the dude who is still at it inserting himself in every single conversation about Lovecraft that speaks on his period atypical racism (as a person and in his work) and getting increasingly rude and angry about it.

(Last year, I think, he insulted my intelligence over a sentence about Lovecraft’s impact… A single sentence in an article about JK Rowling. And this was while he was following me. He didn’t term search, he wasn’t a new follower. He’s just an ass.)

And he’s still at it, I believe? Still rushing to defend Lovecraft from being called a racist – which includes making excuses for his cat’s name, racism in correspondence, racism in his work, and anecdotes told about him.

I still wonder if he thinks like… If he defends Lovecraft hard enough, that he’ll get something out of it? Because I can’t imagine riding that hard for such a mediocre dead writer?

Apropos of Nothing…

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Over the past few days, I’ve been rewatching Castlevania on Netflix as I work and… Hector and Isaac really are something.

From Isaac’s “is this where we kiss like Benedictine monks” not-joke in season two to the camaraderie and intimacy they share in Carmilla’s castle a third of the way through season four, episode six “You Don’t Deserve My Blood”, there’s something about them that just… works.

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[Stitch After Dark] Intro

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“Stitch After Dark” is my attempt at finding a home for reviews of R-18 content that I’m reading and kind of obsessed with. Previously, I did reviews on Dreamwidth (like this trio) and on Twitter, but for what should be obvious reasons… neither of those spaces are an option for me to express myself in any way any longer.

So I am once again attempting to start a (very small) newsletter where, at least once a month, I (over) share about the R-18 content I’m reading and how much I love it/what I love about it.

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Apologies (Not) Forthcoming

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A little guilty pleasure I must admit to… I love seeing other people’s apologies. 

Especially when they’re celebrities. You may have guessed this because I have a whole article about celebrity apologies for antiblackness and other racisms and how fans should respond especially when they aren’t of the offended/harmed party. 

One of the things that I find fascinating, but unsurprising when it comes to apologies? How few apologies I’ve gotten over the years.

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